You Decide !

It was almost a month we friends didnt meet and i can’t imagine how hard we had to plan and meet for barely sometime... It was so good to meet and talk and share all the months stress, fun and experience. We were at my place, my mum made pakoda's and it was barely 8 p.m. and suddenly my friend's phone rings and she's told that she has to be home, it was late... And as usual, she rushed.

I wonder, why do folks have to be so conservative and protective and so restrictive towards their own children? Maybe i'm wrong, not thinking from a parent's perspective but... Come on, we're adults! Dont we have that much of thinking capability!? I am unique! With totally different way of thinking from the other, am i not supposed to have my own liberty?

Sometimes parents here forget that we're gonna fly away someday, to our own destination with a lot of hopes and a will to do something unique!

Many go for engineering/medical/MBA/IAS because their 'parents' want them to. And the reason behind it is that they want to see their son/daughter prosper! What they don’t understand is they’re going to force their children to become/learn what they always wanted to! Or, they won’t their children do what they want just because they weren’t allowed to!

Now the question here is, if you dont love what you're supposed to do will it give the desired result? If you love dancing, why the hell are you supposed to even try becoming a CA? But no, he's been scoring 90% so far!

WHY DO YOU CHOOSE WHATS RIGHT FOR HIM??? And we say India is a democratic country, I'd rather call it dictatorship.

Girls wear a scarf if going out, dont hang out with boys in a co-ed. school, be back before dark, no sports wear in college; Boys dont wear a round neck/printed T-shirt, no jeans, be back before 8. And we say we live in 21st century;A middle class father wont allow his son to do business because its unstable; no career in cricket even if he loves to and is good at it.

Let them make their decisions and get messed up big time with it, that doesnt make him bad at it;it makes him rich, in experience, practical knowlwdge, aware the real time working methods of the world.

The basic problem according to me begins because of communication gap, between parents and kids. From the beginning if parents are clear and open enough there would be no problem at all! Normally this as I have observed probably is because of 3 reasons:

Parents think that their kid is good at studying and should focus on that. But due to this he/she is protected by parents way too much. So much so that parents sometimes on regular basis pick up and drop at the college! But sometimes it happens that they forget to notice that they have a grown up son/daughter and keep protecting him/her and care too much thinking they’re still a kid. That’s one case that we get to see here very often.

Another is when parents have no time for their kids, their office, parties and VVIP meetings and they hardly notice their kids growing up!

And the worse is parents take kids for granted that mine is a total waste brat. There’s no use of me trying to make any communication with him.

That’s when they start feeling differences in each other’s opinions and slowly start having clashes and it goes way out of hand in handling the situations. And at the end of it, they suddenly notice, oh you’re gonna vote this year?!... The years passed so fast! Or, no he does always want to be so aggressive and against me. How the hell am I supposed to handle this? Well, let me tell you… There is never a drastic change occurring naturally in nature, it’s a lot of accumulation since a lot of years!

Let your teen son/daughter enjoy, have fun because it’s the only age they can and probably will! Let them hang out with friends of opposite sex, may be that'll save your effort to search for the perfect partner for your son/daughter. And that they’ll be happy, just as you want them to be! Let him/her talk to you as a friend and be a mentor to them, try thinking from their perspective because no one is wrong from their point of view.

I don’t know if you saw the Twilight series and if you did, do you remember the graduation speech. Here is what a teenager has to say in the speech..

"When we were five, they asked us what we wanted to be when we grew up. Our answers were things like astronaut, president, or in my case… princess.
When we were ten, they asked again and we answered - rock star, cowboy, or in my case, gold medalist. But now that we've grown up, they want a serious answer. Well, how 'bout this: who the hell knows?!
This isn't the time to make hard and fast decisions, its time to make mistakes. Take the wrong train and get stuck somewhere chill. Fall in love - a lot. Major in philosophy 'cause there's no way to make a career out of that. Change your mind. Then change it again, because nothing is permanent.
So make as many mistakes as you can. That way, someday, when they ask again what we want to be… we won't have to guess. We'll know."

Just let the creativity flow, let it blossom and when it does, help it grow! Because when that happens, there will be adequate folks for each job to be done, and with everyone with a job that they love to do... And so the job will be perfect as ever...!

So, let your imagination run free and do what you want... Because you live only once! So if your parents are too protective and their love has turned into possessiveness what i think is “Thodasa jhuth bol boss! Aur enjoy kar apni life"

*T & C apply ;) :)

Be open, be straight and do not misuse your parents trust and affection for you.

This is Mukul signing off...

The marvelous game, called life.

I always wondered as a kid, why cant I go out and play all the time? Time passed, the question was lost somewhere deep. And suddenly I realized, I've been playing all while along... 

Life is a very strange game that we play all time. Some play just because you have no other option, some play with fear whereas some play for fun. Anything that you don’t enjoy doing is not worth doing at all! Cherish the taste in everything you do, let its taste melt in your soul, just as the cheese of a double burst pizza!

Life is a gift, use it with care and use it as much as you can. But sitting home instead of going out and playing just because you may get hurt is honestly what a coward does. I hate such cowards; life without a risk is something like lamp without oil! Boy, I just can’t imagine that..! How will the lamp glow, same is the case with life. There's no risk, there'd be no fun. No l'il incidents that'll make you laugh over it after a decade! What will you tell your kids about, what fun you had at your college with your pals, what pranks did you play on your teachers in your school!

Go out, talk to strangers, climb a tree, open up your remote controlled car, get wet in the rain, freak out with your friends or try to cook something and make it a mess! Man, trying something the first time for fun is succha weird, exiting and fascinating experience! And who knows? If you enjoyed doing it the first time, maybe that’s your new favorite! Oh yes, but that doesn't mean that you'll try Russian roulette on your friend..!

I never thought I could talk to someone strange, or in front of a couple dozen folks... but friends always said I could explain complex things making it simple. I gave a presentation at my college, and that was really cool! I love giving presentation and making things simple to folks. Me and a big time friend of mine are hell of presentation givers at college now!

Life is what we make of it and so is your personality, and probably everything from a pen to internet.

It’s how you look at the glass, half full or half empty! Most of the folks I've come across to date are of the 'half empty' attitude. Sometimes I feel people fear to see it half full. It’s like everyone is habituated to failures and no one wants change to happen.

Why is it that we refuse to have faith in someone?  Why is it that there is no hope left in us? Why is humanity getting vanished from everywhere..?! Why does someone's girl friend get jealous if her boyfriend feels comfortable chatting with her sister? Why does she ‘have to’ have a doubt? Can’t it happen that they're just casually talking! Why is when you're late to get a train, you don’t even console yourself 'Oh man! Train may be late for a few minutes'. Yes, it may spoil... May? Yes, it definitely will spoil the whole schedule. But sometimes hope is all you need to make the magic happen!

Yea, magic... Or may be miracle... What is it? Nothing but probably a long sequencing of small hopes and missed trains that make some wonderful things happen exactly at the right time! Don’t you think?

Many folks I know cant, or probably don’t let bygones be bygones. They just want to hold on to it like the eagle does to a fish! And then they complain that the past is painful and itchy. Its past, its gone! No need to worry about it now, no matter how bad! That exactly is what we call the beauty of it...!         
No one normally ever wonders that why is History as a subject being taught to you, just so that you know your country’s prolonged cultural heritage? Hell no! It’s taught so you may think and ‘finally’ arrive at the conclusion that ‘same mistakes are not to be repeated again’. Make new ones, maybe those will create another remarkable history. Forget what happened, move on and start afresh! Crying won’t get you anywhere; instead probably just worsen the things up.

Everyone has a bad phase in life, you HAVE TO have it! It’s like too much of sugar makes your tongue sour. Same way it works out with this mystical, marvelous game “life”. Didn’t get me? Lemme explain, you see there’s dark and there’s cold. Now dark is absence of any sort of light, and cold is absence of heat! Same way, when there’s no happy things happening, and there are downs in life we call it “grief”. But if I put some merry stuff the same time, your grief is lessened!

It’s all about striking the right balance. If there’d be all merry and fun, its importance would be gone. Totally vanished, but for you to realize things, this natural mechanism functions on its own. Trains got late since your hopes were up, but someone lost their job because of the same!

It’s about striking the right balance…!


Try striking the right balance. Try saying 'yes'. Try hoping. And try enjoying...


This is Mukul Tilak, signing off..
See you soon, thanks for taking a quick peak :)